It’s indeed very simple.

Just take out what’s precious from them and they’ll realize how grateful they are to have that precious thing before it’s taken from them (By taking out, I don’t mean to literally taking out. Just keep it away for a certain period of time).

For example, for a kid. His mom is really precious to him. She always takes care of him daily. Once she gets sick and can’t take care of him. He’ll feel grateful at that time.

Here’s a more scientific insight from my friend, Ellese.

Whenever we need to encourage a particular behavior, we can always use the Pavlovian conditioning of pleasure seeking and pain avoidance. Like what you were suggesting, relate to the kid the importance of being grateful of important things in life that he may be taking for granted i.e. the mum by taking it away temporary. That is pain avoidance. The kid learns to treasure whatever he has now that he’s been through the possible loss/pain.

The other way is to educate him on the pleasure part. Teach him what’s the benefits of being grateful… tell him stories of people who’ve been grateful and became so admirable that stories of them were passed down. Encourage them to learn from them. Sooner or later, such wonderful stories will be embedded in the subconscious, always reminding him the importance and benefits of being grateful.

You can use this tip to make your kid grateful.

To be honest, I’m experiencing it now. I’m grateful to my house servants and babysitter. Why? Because they all left for their annual vacation (we call it “mudik” in Indonesian, and all house servants are “mudik” now) and my wife and have to keep my house tidy ourselves, including washing clothes, watering the garden, and cooking.

I sure wish my Malaysian friend, Raymond Chua, to come and visit me. You know, since his hobby for stress relieving is cleaning!

I like this prayer so much… It gives me courage and calmness. So I want to share it with you all.

The Serenity Prayer
by Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)

God, give us grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.
Amen.

(If you like it, here’s a printed version of The Serenity Prayer.)

Some of you may not know Ramadan, so here’s an excerpt from Wikipedia:

Ramadan (Arabic: ?????, Rama??n) is an Islamic religious observance that takes place during the ninth month of the Islamic calendar, when the Qur’an was revealed. The word “Ramadan” is derived from an Arabic word for intense heat, scorched ground, and shortness of rations. It is considered the most venerated, blessed and spiritually-beneficial month of the Islamic year. Prayers, sawm (fasting), charity, and self-accountability are especially stressed at this time; religious observances associated with Ramadan are kept throughout the month.

Today is the first of Ramadan, the first day they start fasting. So I can imagine the sudden change of life style where they can’t eat and drink during the day… hunger and thirst must be felt.

Now what’s its relation with law of attraction?

By shifting the focus! So instead feel and think about hunger and thirst, shift the feeling and thought to something else.. something good. For example it can be a plan for charity.

Controlling the emotion such as refraining from anger, envy, greed, lust, sarcastic retorts, backbiting, and gossip can also be done by listening to soothing and calming audio.

Well, during an average day, you walk around seeing and sensing things you might like to experience, and in doing so, you think about how you can obtain it. The clearer you are about the experience you want to have from the size, shape, texture, smell, etc., you will cause your emotion to trigger the action to create stronger thoughts, which are then stored into your subconscious mind. It is when enough similar thoughts have collected that the subconscious mind will send the specific signal into the Universe with your desired images. How? Through the constant repeating and storing of focused concentrated thoughts with information from your conscious mind to the subconscious whether it is positive or negative.

The conscious mind is constantly taking in almost everything visually screening, sorting, analyzing the content, and deciding whether it will become one of your experiences. As your conscious mind scopes out a new adventure, the subconscious mind vibrationally feels the emotional energy that is wrapped around the information it is receiving. This is done to see whether it is a wish or something that you really might like to experience in the future or now. But even if it is a wish the moment you insert enough emotion behind it, you will trigger manifestation. This is the formula for creating:

Thought + Desire + Emotion + Belief + Visualization + Expectation = Manifestation

Stay focused only on positive, uplifting, empowering thoughts about yourself and your desire, because unseemly chaotic, outside stimulation (family, friends, spouse, lover, etc.) can easily sidetrack you or cause you to become unfocused or stuck in pursing their desire rather than your own. Such subliminal information can also come from watching TV and listening to the radio and can slowly hypnotize a person into believing they need everything “right now” from a new car, a bigger house, to a better job without ever being clear about what else comes with that desire. Listening to others who seem to have your best at heart may have a bias, which focused on might convince you that you are never going to be a success or live a glorious, delicious life because successful people look like models, or are born rich and have the right connections.

So, in collecting data keep in mind you can choose the better part of something that may not be to your total liking. You may not like the person personality, but love the suit they have on, therefore focus only on the suit and not the person. Keep in mind that your subconscious mind has the ability to go beyond the physical and manifest anything you can create in your mind if you desire it with deep passion, and believe it. As with anything in colleting data always “consider the source” i.e., what is the purpose of this information, where is it coming from and is it for the highest good of all.

Ponder:

1. Acknowledge that you create your reality.
2. Acknowledge that you are worthy.
3. What are you grateful for now?
4. How decisive are you about your desire?
5. How determined are you?
6. Do you have faith?
7. What really inspires you?
8. What motivates you?
9. What makes you laugh?
10. If it’s not positive then it is negative.
11. Are you connected to the Universe?
12. Do you believe?
13. Are you aligned with the Universe?
14. Develop a positive Attitude.
15. Be grateful now for seen and unseen.

Relationships

What kind of relationships do you want to create with God, with your parents, children, friends, co-workers, wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, and most importantly, yourself? How do you attract the type of relationships that you want with the people in your life? How would your life change if your relationships were closer, more intimate, less judgmental, more trusting, and more loving?

Healthy Body and Lifestyle

What do you want your body to look like? How do you want to feel? What do you want to weigh? Do you want to live a healthy lifestyle? Do you want to live a long life? Do you have exercise goals? Do you want to have healthy eating habits?

Finances and Abundance

Do you want to save more money? Do you want to reduce debt? Do you want to increase your income? Do you want to create other sources of income? Do you want to have a new house, car, piano, boat, or other things?

Self-Improvement / Awareness

Do you want a better awareness of who you are; why you do the things you do; think, the thoughts, you think about; react in the way you do; judge yourself and others; are highly motivated in some things, but lethargic in others? Do you want to take classes, workshops, seminars? Do you want to finally get the degree, diploma, certificate, or credentials you have been thinking about? Do you want to read more books on subjects for which you have a passion?

Hobbies / Entertainment / Fun

What hobbies do you have now that you want to become better at? What hobbies would you like to begin; gardening, chess, painting, reading, collecting (coins, stamps, comic books, cookbooks, etc)? What would you like to do for fun and entertainment: Attend a live performance featuring your favorite bands, fish, or travel? What would you like to learn to do for fun: Ballroom dancing, golf, tennis, play an instrument? What would you like to do just once in your life: Jump out of an airplane, talk in front of a large group? Do you want to travel and experience nature, different cultures and scenery?

Passions Purpose

What are your passions? What is your purpose in life? An easy way to identify this is to look at what you fantasize about or do in your spare time because you want to do it or love to do it. If you have a garden in your back yard and you really enjoy the hard work of maintaining a garden, then that is a passion of yours. If you play tennis, golf or bowl on the weekends, then that is a passion of yours. If you enjoy babysitting your granddaughter, or fixing things around the house, or finding new recipes to cook fun special meals, then that is a passion of yours. Once we get past the belief that we can have only one passion or only one purpose in life, it is easier to see that we have many passions and the only work we have to do is to make time for them, be present while we arc doing them, and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy! Our purpose in life is to live to our potential, experience love and life to the fullest, become aware of who we are and be true to our soul. Whatever form that takes in your life is right for you.

Contrary to what most people believe, love is so much more than a feeling or a condition of a relationship. Love is energy. In fact, it’s the greatest and most creative power in the cosmos. It may not be as immediately noticeable as the energy of sound, or as easily measurable as that of light, but love is as vital and dynamic as any energy that we’re capable of experiencing.

In ancient Greek mythology, Eros, the God of Love, was originally perceived as a cosmic force—more energy than entity—whose job it was to organize and direct all of the elements of the Universe in order to create harmony out of chaos. Only later did this force become personified in the figure of the arrow-shooting angel who directed the dreams of human desire.

This organizing force is an apt representation, for it’s love that’s responsible for the laws that bring order to all of life. In fact, it’s the energy of original love—Divine Love—that’s responsible for life itself. It’s the creative source of everything we see. Every person, being, or object in the Universe is an expression of the power and creativity of Divine Love.

This remarkable power is an irrepressible river of energy that continually flows through the Universe. You are a part of that river. You have that Divine power radiating to and through you. It’s what you do with this power that determines your destiny in relationships—and in everything else.

You can connect with this powerful river of energy through your motivation or intention. Ultimately, you must align your own intention with that of love, in order to ride that wonderful tide of amour. If you don’t, you’ll continue to find yourself struggling against the current.

This is what happened to Psyche, Eros’s lover, when she allowed her love to turn to fear. Theirs is a classic love story, full of passion, jealousy, and suspicion; yet today, it remains an accurate representation of the patterns and the power behind the Universal Laws of love.

Most of us, like the ordinary lump of steel, are sending mixed messages to the Law of Attraction because we’re confused about whom we truly are and what’s important to us. We feel uncertain about our purpose in this life. We say one thing but believe another, don’t we?

For example, if I say that I want my clients to pay a deposit in advance for my services, yet I doubt that they will, then I am sending mixed messages and the Law of Attraction is receiving two conflicting signals. One signal says, “Send clients who will pay a deposit” while a second signal says, “I’m not capable (or worthy) of getting a deposit from my clients.”

How do we become aligned like a magnet?

If we want to become powerful magnets, attracting more of what we enjoy into our lives, then we’ll want to have clear, positive, good feelings about ourselves. We can discover who we are and what we truly love by noticing what feels good. Then we can begin to accept ourselves with our personal set of preferences and act in ways that honor our core values. Core values are deeply embedded values that give us guidance by producing good feelings when we honor them and negative feelings when we don’t. Honesty, kindness, loyalty, compassion, and goodness are all core values.

How does prayer figure into this process?

Prayer is a great tool to connect to the Universe. If you truly believe what you are praying or meditating and you are being specific when asking for assistance, then the Universe will reply, “Give that person more of what they are asking for”. Pray, but not from lack.

Opening your mind to new ideas and Creative Thought processes is a big leap of faith and can change core belief. I know having blind faith and believing in the unseen is a big pill to swallow for most. A great example of faith is your belief that the sun will rise tomorrow you don’t know how, but you do know it will.

When people are not totally able to see clearly or understand the Science of the Law of Attraction, they are quick to say it doesn’t work. Instead of desiring and allowing the process to work, people let doubt slip in and take over their thought process. Contrary to belief, there is no scientific evidence that the Law of Attraction actually works, it’s about having faith. Be decisive and establish that you want change in your life and that may mean leaving behind core beliefs such as: I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy, They won’t let me because, I’m to short/tall, my mother/father etc. told me that it was wrong, you don’t have enough experience, and of course, you have to wait your turn or time. Don’t let any of these excuses or old beliefs stop you, reprogram yourself start by getting a clear mental picture of where you are now. Then move forward by asking pertinent questions like the following:

• What stops me form having my desire?
• What additional resources might I need?
• Am I visualizing?
• Am I feeling the essence of what I want?
• Am I being truthful and honest with myself?

These questions will help you think clear, specific, focused thoughts and with willpower, bring your desire into material form.

Use a journal to record your thoughts, desires, and answers. Write down old childhood beliefs and compare them with your new ones are they still relevant now? Let the journal become your blueprint for success and place to document your progress during the day.

Ponder:

1. Act now.
2. What are you grateful for?
3. See yourself free of any mental limitations.
4. Are you aligned with your desire?
5. What makes you feel euphoric?

Affirmation:

There is no lack or limitations in my life.

And now, let’s review: The Law of Attraction

1. Decide what you want.
2. State what you desire in the positive with enough emotion to make it feel physically real.
3. Think repeatedly during the day about your desire and visualize it.
4. Realign your thinking, using your willpower to get started.
5. Mentally and physically sync with whatever you desire to the point of manifestation.
6. Understand all possibilities are only limited by the thoughts in your mind.
7. Start pretending, also known as “Acting as If”.
8. Be specific: include the size, shape, color, texture and when you want your desire.
9. Use affirmations and empowering songs to change old beliefs until the new, positive ones become a habit.
10. Do no give it your attention/point of focus to any situation or experience that you don’t want. Simply put, do not entertain the thought.
11. Post pictures of your dreams, desires, and goals everywhere and visualize being in possession of them.
12. Believe, have faith, be confident, speak in the positive, and take personal responsibility.
13. Keep a journal; write specific details about your desire.
14. Model someone who has the positive traits you desire.
15. Stay focused and on point. Read, review, reprogram.
16. Start small, gain confidence in creating and manifesting.
17. Become consciously aware of you and your surroundings.
18. Believe and know that you are entitled to wealth, health, success and abundance. Expect that it will yours.
19. Acknowledge that you are a mental magnet and will attract to you everything you are thinking and feeling.
20. Enjoy every minute of the process, in the now.